5 Steps to Red Lips

red-lipstick.jpgLast year I engaged in a quest to find the perfect shade of red lipstick. After I found it (more on that in a second), I reserved the look for evenings, but recently started sporting a red lip periodically for day events. At BlissDom, I decided to rock the red lip every day since my makeup is pretty neutral and I feel more finished with a bold lip. And I was admittedly a little shocked by the result — I received countless compliments (including people I didn’t know stopping me in my tracks!), and also many comments such as “Oh, I could never do that,” or “I have no idea how to find the right color.” So today, I wanted to share my 5 steps to red lips. Really, I think anyone can pull this off and it looks spectacular!

1. Seek professional consultation. If you are, like me, paralyzed when it comes to picking shades at the drugstore, visit a professional cosmetics counter. Yes, the high end products are more expensive than the drugstore products, but I probably spent more money experimenting (and failing) with drugstore shades compared to what I paid for the right colors. And make sure the folks at the counter actually assess your skin tone and try the shade on you before you buy it. I had one unfortunate encounter at Sephora (a place I typically love) where I asked for red lipstick recommendations and the salesperson simply picked out the bestselling store color and rang me up. I tried it on at home and it looked terrible and I ended up returning it. I was smarter the second time around and ended up at the Chanel counter at Nordstrom. They not only advised that the deep red I was envisioning would look Goth and not great on me, but they selected a fantastic shade that works well both for night and day.

2. Invest in the tools. At a professional makeup counter, you may be tempted to skip the lip pencil to save money, but you will need the pencil to help set the lines and prevent color bleed (aka “feathering”) around the lips. Following my Chanel consult, I purchased the Carmin #14 lip liner and Gabrielle #19 lipstick. The lip liner is especially awesome because it comes with a lipstick brush built into the other side. (Note: I was surprised to see how pink and brown, respectively, these products look online — all the more reason why you should go for an in person consult and save online shopping for once you have established your colors.)

3. Budget in extra time. Because red is such a strong color, I find that it requires more application precision than my usual super quick lip pencil + gloss. Allocate 10 or so extra minutes in your routine to quickly exfoliate your lips (I simply run a warm washcloth gently over my lips), add a little lip balm to moisturize, then apply the pencil and lipstick (use the brush for nice clean lines). Once you’re done, make sure you bring your lipstick and lip liner with you, as you will probably need to touch up periodically.

4. Maintenance. Red lipstick is, admittedly, a little more high maintenance. It’s definitely an eat-with-a-fork instead of chow-down-a-burrito type of lip color. However, I did not find that I needed to build in extra stops — at BlissDom, I simply checked my color whenever I happened to use the bathroom. Later in the day, I did find I needed to deal with a little feathering — easily remedied by running a bit of tissue along the edges of my lips to clean up the color bleed then reapplying. Also, make sure you check your teeth after application!

5. Try it. Own it. Many women who asked me about wearing red lipstick said they loved the look but “just couldn’t do it” or that it would “look terrible on them.” Yet, when I asked if they had ever tried, they said no, it was too intimidating. I conveyed the importance of steps 1-2, and that knowing you have the right shade helps with the confidence-to-wear factor (it certainly did for me!). Then once you procure the red, OWN IT. Try it at an evening event first, just to get your legs under you, then try it during the day. This may take a while — I found my red January 2011 and it wasn’t until the last couple of months that I started wearing it for day events, and then BlissDom was the first time that I have ever Gwen Stefani’d it and worn red three days straight. As I mentioned earlier, I loved how it looked and was shocked by the positive response!

Will you try red lipstick? I’m curious! You can see my red BlissDom lips here, and if you’re feeling really inspired and want to share, post up a photo of you rocking your red lips at the Boston Mamas Facebook page. It would be so fun to see your lovely faces!

Image credit: Stuart Miles via FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Plum to the Rescue

plum-organics.jpgOne of the most stressful parts about Violet’s recent extended state of plague was that for the better part of a week she refused bottles and pretty much all solid food, save occasional bites of cheese and blueberries. The logical part of my brain knew that she would eventually drink and eat again, but I was still concerned about dehydration and getting her some calories, particularly because she was so limp and sad and not herself during this time.

During this period, an unexpected little miracle arrived in the mail: samples from Plum Organics. I have known about Plum for a couple of years, but I haven’t purchased starter purees of any kind since I’ve been making baby food (the Beaba Babycook makes it absurdly easy to do so), and at this point, Violet has largely moved on to finger food chunks. However, when I opened the box, I decided to try the purees. Not only had I not seen these yogurt/fruit/veggie and fruit/grain blends before, but it occurred to me that if Violet would actually eat them, she would get a little more fluid in her by way of the liquid content in the purees.

And to my enormous glee and relief, I approached her first with the apple-spinach yogurt blend and she gobbled it up. I also presented some of the apple/raisin/quinoa blend and she gobbled that up too. For the next couple of days, we continued to present her usual foods and she gradually started taking them again, but she readily consumed these purees on each presentation. {Cue angels singing.}

I’m not sure if it was the food novelty factor, the comfort of being spoon fed (as I mentioned, Violet has moved on to finger foods, save yogurt), the taste blend, or something unbeknownst to me (Vi still hasn’t sprouted any teeth, so we wondered whether gum pain and not wanting to mash on solids was contributing to her food rejection), but these products were a saving grace. It was a huge relief to see Violet get some calories, and at the risk of a TMI moment, the liquid content of the purees also helped her on the output side.

Violet is finally back to her usual cheerful self, eating her solids, but we are keeping these pouches on hand as a handy and convenient back up/supplement. I especially like having the fruit and grain blends in our arsenal because other than brown rice and quinoa, I never cook millet, barley, or amaranth so it’s nice to have those grain options in rotation for variety.

As of this writing, these two new Plum products haven’t been fully released in stores. I learned this the hard way when I ran to Whole Foods panicking in dismay in the baby food aisle when this was the only food Violet would eat! After writing the Plum Organics representative who sent the samples, she informed me that the products are available at Toys “R” Us (here are the links for the fruit/veggie/yogurt and fruit/grain blends), then they’ll be available at Target in March, Safeway in April, and Whole Foods later in the spring. We’ve tried every variety except the fruit/grain blend including mango (since we think Vi might be allergic to mango) and all have been consumed happily!

12 Winter Birthday Party Ideas

treat-cupcake-bar.jpgToday, Jennifer (also of Hey Girl Momma Go) shares 12 ideas for winter birthday parties (that go beyond the bouncy castle):

I actually don’t mind indoor jumpy houses and long inflatable slides. I have even grown to appreciate the “fun” in large singing mice, cheesy pan pizza, and gobs of tickets that propel out of game machines like a crazy paper adrenaline rush. But as a parent who frequents the kid’s birthday party circuit, it is refreshing to switch it up. Here are 12 ideas for kid’s birthday parties that are great for the winter season (many are great the rest of the year too!).

1. The nostalgic Woburn Bowladrome north of Boston has bowling for kids that’s complete with a glow in the dark setting (the more white clothing the kids wear, the higher the glow factor). Young bowlers will enjoy the bumper lanes, good tunes, and small arcade for post-bowling games.

2. If you can handle the cooler temps, snow tubing at Nashoba Valley in Westford is great outdoor fun.

3. The birthday party package at Coco Key Water Park in Danvers includes admission for all kids, where they swim their little hearts out in a huge warehouse-sized lifeguarded water park. They also offer side rooms for pizza and cake and post-swimming arcade games. If you want to party on the fancy side, you can rent a cabana that’s poolside. (Also, FYI — for a fun family outing, Coco Key offers day passes. We went as a family one Saturday and had a blast.)

4. On the other end of the physical exercise spectrum, I’ve heard good things about Treat Cupcake Bar in Needham, where party goers can enjoy a cupcake decorating mini-class and decorate their own aprons.

5. For crafty types, check out Dabblers in West Concord, where you can focus your party around a range of hobbies such as woodworking, soap making, fiber arts, and science. And they make it one-stop shopping for party-planning parents by including invites, goody bags, and thank you notes in the party package. Awesome.

6. Kidstock is wonderful for budding thespians.

7. The MFA offers lovely creative and educational birthday parties.

8. Pottery painting provides a great hands on activity where the project doubles as the party favor. Team Boston Mamas has had great experiences at Clay Dreams, Made by Me, and Plaster Fun Time. It would also be worth checking whether Barefoot Books offers birthday parties in their lovely studio.

9. If you want to blend outsourcing + being at home, the New England Aquarium will bring sea critters to you.

10. Obviously, outsourcing can get pricey, particularly if you have a large party size. If you have the energy and space to host at home, dance parties are great. Simply put the kids in a finished basement with the Cha Cha slide blaring and a disco ball, and you’re good to go.

11. Also in the home spectrum: host a “pretend” sleepover with pizza, cake, PJs, and a movie (note, however, that this does not work when it’s your daughters entire kindergarten class — I learned that one the hard way!).

12. Finally, there’s always the beautiful simplicity of sending the kids outdoors. Tell attendees in advance to bundle up and plan a scavenger hunt or simple games like freeze tag and dodge ball. If there’s snow on the ground, gather your old beach shovels and pails so the kids can build snow forts. And make a big batch of hot cocoa to help the kids warm up when they come in!

Do you have other awesome winter party ideas? Feel free to share them in the comments below!

Image credit: Treat Cupcake Bar

Exciting News!

bear-and-robot-vintage-typewriter.jpgIt’s sort of crazy how things come full circle. Two years ago at BlissDom (incidentally, where I’m headed off to shortly), I had several people tell me I should write a book — a huge compliment. And at that conference, I actually thought of a book idea — I was so excited about the idea that I drafted an outline on the plane ride home. But then I couldn’t quite take the idea forward. It was a busy year — I was traveling a lot, I got distracted by another book idea later that year (again, I outlined the concept during the ride home). And then I unexpectedly got pregnant. Which meant another busy year followed.

But then this past fall, one of the cofounders of Bibliomotion — a Boston-based publishing house — approached me after Pivot (apparently my co-host Whitney Johnson told Jill Friedlander to come talk to me). Jill and I had a very friendly chat but I honestly didn’t think much of it — that night I was truly in pure help-other-people-connect-to-one-another mode, not advance-my-own-agenda mode. Until Jill emailed me a week later asking to talk on the phone. We chatted about my book ideas and I was tasked with deciding which book I wanted to formally propose. After some mulling, I felt very much that I wanted to start with the book idea I had hatched first (at BlissDom 2010), but I wanted a co-pilot on the adventure. And as I prepared to depart for Camp Mighty in November, I realized that I had the utterly perfect potential partner in my brilliant friend Asha Dornfest, and I was thrilled that during our time together at Camp Mighty, she agreed to be my co-author. I returned home, dusted off my nearly two year old book outline, and within a mind-numbingly short amount of time, Asha and I edited and submitted the proposal, received an offer, signed with an amazing agent (OMG I feel like such a grownup…I have a literary agent!), and as of this morning, our book deal is official. I almost cannot believe this is really and truly happening!

But it is. And I am beyond excited. To collaborate with an amazing friend (incidentally, one of the very first bloggers I “met” on the internet) on a topic about which we feel immense collective passion. To be represented by a wonderful agent. To work with a fantastic, forward thinking publishing house. To be on my way to fulfilling a life list item. I’m so very grateful.

Asha and I will be sharing more about the book soon, but in a nutshell, the tentative title is Minimalist Parenting: Enjoy Modern Family Life More By Doing Less and we are viewing it as a “MacGyver’s guide for modern parents” — including advice to help overwhelmed and guilt-ridden parents shed the pressure to constantly “do” and instead make more mindful choices for their family time and resources. Incidentally, the title of my talk tomorrow at BlissDom is DO LESS as a Life Strategy. Clearly, I think about this stuff pretty much all the time.

Asha and I have some ideas about how we hope to integrate the community into the process. I hope you will come along for the ride!

Image credit: vintage typewriter illustration by Bear & Robot via Etsy

Blame it on the Baby Brain

So how long can I use the excuse “baby brain?”

It’s obviously valid when you are pregnant…but how long after you deliver your baby can you still use that excuse? I have a 6 month old, and a toddler who is 2 years 9 months.

Can I blame baby brain still?

I parked my car in a valet garage today and told the attendant I’d only be two hours. Sometimes when I say that, they leave it right up front. I had a great meeting….two hours and $36 later (don’t you love downtown Boston parking rates?), I returned to get my car. I noticed a small black SUV up front and as I handed the guy my ticket, I said, “Thanks for keeping my car up front.” Then I turned away to pay at the machine.

After I paid, I started walking toward the car and asked the attendant if my keys were in it. I did not understand his response so I just kept walking and opened the driver door to the car.

It wasn’t my car. It wasn’t even the same make of car. I have a Toyota. It was a Hyundai. The only thing this car has in common with my car is the color. Black.

So another attendant drives my vehicle up. I get in, adjust the seat (and by adjust, I mean pull it all the way forward). I thank the attendants. And go.

In reverse.

What?

All I could do was laugh at myself. Out loud. In a deranged sort of way.

Blame it on the baby brain.

14 Fun February Vacation Picks

family-day-decordova.jpgOh my word, is February vacation upon us already? Laurel is beyond excited to take it down a notch and spend the next nine days in her jammies. I kind of wish I could too! Also, I’m really hoping that this vacation period brings with it the release of our family from the plague — after eight very long days, Violet finally perked up last night and started giggling and causing trouble again (I never thought I’d be so happy to see her make giant messes everywhere!). Anyway, today I wanted to round up a few picks for the weekend + several for next week so you can plan accordingly if you are, like us, enjoying a February staycation. Enjoy!

1. February 18: Explore color at this family day event. Click through on the link to see the image shown partially in the thumbnail above — it is breathtaking (if you don’t see it immediately, refresh your browser until you do as they have rotating images)!

2. February 18: Go on a folk art exploration.

3. February 18-19: This event is perfect for train fans of all ages.

4. February 17-25: I posted about this earlier in the week, but really, this is delightful for Bugs Bunny fans.

5. February 17-26: Laurel and I are super excited to head to Disney on Ice’s Dare to Dream tomorrow. Rapunzel and Flynn!

6. February 18-26: Go back in time at Old Sturbridge Village.

7. February 18-26: Practice those sailor skills.

8. February 20: Enjoy Doktor Kaboom! — an interactive science comedy show.

9. February 20-24: Cast your vote in a PreZOOdential Election.

10. February 20-24: A building full of kid-friendly fare, including special winter vacation week programming.

11. February 20-24: Get outside during the winter break.

12. February 20-24: Artful February vacation programming. I think Laurel would love this.

13. February 20-25: Programming perfect for budding techies.

14. Ongoing: Finally, if your elementary school aged kids are in programming and you’re looking for some structured play for your little ones, Knucklesbones is running open play sessions for babies/kids 8 months – 5 years.

Image credit: deCordova Sculpture Park and Museum

The Giants Win Was for You Dad

The last time I posted I was talking shit about the Giants and raving about my beloved New England Patriots. Oh and talking about Superbowl food.  I really believed there was no way in hell my Patriots were going to lose to the Giants… again.  And in those two + weeks that I’ve been silent on this blog, the Giants not only won the Superbowl, but I lost my father, one of the biggest Giants fans I know.

I don’t talk too much about my personal life on this blog. It just doesn’t feel comfortable to tell you all everything about me when I have no idea who you are.  But writing is therapeutic and I know I have to get these feelings out.

My father’s life was cut way too short.  His death made me realize how unfair life can be.  It made me realize how the world is full of IF’s.  And not having enough time.

I remember while watching the Superbowl unfold, I looked up at the clock and saw we had :57 seconds left.  Under a minute for a miracle.  But in my heart I knew it was too late.  And when the Giants won, I immediately started to tear up.  I said to myself, “that was for you Dad.”

The next day I took the day off of work and I spent a lot of time listening to sports radio.  The announcers kept saying things like: “If Brady didn’t throw that interception…” “If Welker made that catch…” “IF, IF, IF.” I cried while driving because in so many ways that one football game symbolized what I was going through with my father’s life.

On Thursday February 9th, my father passed away at the way too young age of 68 due to complications from Triple Bypass Surgery.

I’ve spent the last few days wishing I had more time with him.  Wishing I had more answers. Wishing we hadn’t grown so far apart in the last five years.  Wishing he had met my nephews.  Wishing he could meet my future son. I kept thinking “what if?”  What if he didn’t have the surgery?

My fathers funeral was on Sunday and over 75 people showed up.  A lot of people had great memories of my father. The truth was my dad was a big kid at heart.  He lived his life according to his plan and his weaknesses shaped his unique personality.

To paraphrase from my brothers eulogy, “if a persons life is measured by the memories he’s left behind, my father has no equal.”

I’m sure all the people who showed up at his funeral had numerous stories about my father.  And although my father was a complex man, he did have a very kind, giving heart.

My father captured our lives growing up through polaroids and with the worlds largest video camera known to man.  As soon as those video cameras went on the market, my dad had to get one.  And throughout my childhood, that video camera was always there.  Making videos in the 80s and 90s left a huge impact on me and was probably a huge reason why I majored in film in college and continue to make a career in the field. When I look back on my childhood, I think back to my track meets.  I think back to looking up in the stands before a big race and seeing my dad cheering his face off while carrying his big, bulky video camera.

I wish things could have ended differently for my father.  I wish I could have more time with him.  I wish so many things but in the end sometimes there are no answers. But the memories of my father will live on forever…

Not Just One Mother – Remembering Debbi

In my life, I have been very fortunate to not just have one but many mothers.  Women that come into my life, who whether they know it or not, have a pivotal impact on me.   One of these women is my mother-in-law, Debbi.  While I was only blessed to spend five too short years with her, the impression she made on me will last a lifetime, if not more as I know the lessons she imparted onto me and my husband will be passed down to our children.  
Debbi and I at my shower she helped plan 
Today is Debbi’s birthday and while she is no longer with us, I wanted to pause and take a moment to remember her.  It seems that not a day goes by when I do not think of Debbi or am reminded of something she did or said, but on her birthday, I thought I would share a little bit more with you.
When I first met Aaron, I had no idea that I would be gaining a very large family as well.  It is not at all intimidating It is just damn scary to meet his three other siblings as they act in their “wolf pack mentality” (as Debbi would say).  But Debbi took me under her wing at once.  And when I say this, I do not mean she coddled me.  Instead, she treated me as her daughter – we had long talks on the phone, AIM (yes AIM), and at her house on the Cape.  She imparted words of wisdom and taught me how to make challah and rugleach (all the necessities to being a Jewish wife and mother, of course).  And when I was wrong, she told me. I did not get any special treatment.  When I acted like a child, she treated me like one giving me a full reprimand of shouting and all, which today just makes me laugh and smile fondly.
Picking out my wedding dress, all smiles
That was just who Debbi was.  She was a mother to her four children but to so many more as well.  She was a nursery school teacher teaching to low income children, most of whom came into her classroom not speaking a word of English and while she did not know their language, all of the children spoke English by the time they left her   She cherished her family above all else.  They were her pride and joy and I am honored that she let me be a part of that group.  
So today I remember the little things.  Debbi…
-  driving me two hours to get my hair and makeup tested for my wedding, just because;
-  being able to pick out the head piece for my wedding among hundreds when I was overwhelmed;
-  yelling at Aaron to put me on the phone before we had ever even met so she could tell me how to dress for an impromptu dinner; 
-  hurdling us all into the car to go to brunch at the Cape because if we waited just one more second for me to change out of my workout clothes, we would be caught in the line;
- telling me never to name my child just Debbi because she did not like that name, “No Debbis” she said and reminding me that when I am pregnant to promise to just step on the scale backwards (she knew I was a bit crazy).
Passover Seder.  Sure it is a really important holiday but that does not mean we can’t dress up and have fun
 Aaron and I reenacting the plaques

These are not the most monumental occasions;  I could talk about those – graduations, birthdays, or weddings.  But that is not what Debbi was about.  It was the little things – sharing a book, teaching me how to knit, going shopping, etc.  that I remember most and that come into my head time and time again…
This morning Aaron sat for over a good two hours playing video games.  I asked if he would still be there when I got home to which he responded “No I will have beaten the game by then.”  Aaron I said, what would your mother say.  He responded she would say “Oooo Aaron” in the certain sing-song voice that only those who knew her can now hear.  I told him, I was thinking the exact same thing….
 I hope you have all been as blessed as I to have a Debbi in your life.  I challenge you to take a moment and remember him or her now.
If you are reading this and knew Debbi, she some stories with me.  If not, share some other stories of people you love.  You can also go visit Debbi anytime and remember.  She blogged about her journey here and I am thankful I have that to cherish always and to show my future children.
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One of my favorite memories is Debbi and my aunts and sisters-in-laws throwing me this shower…

10 Minutes

10-minutes.jpgLast week I hopped onto a chat at The Motherhood about work/life balance. During the chat, I commented about self care being a major part of the balance equation, but that it’s important not to stall out due to your own, or other people’s, ambitious standards. That very morning, actually, I started a practice of giving myself the gift of at least 10 minutes of self care every day. (And yes, I put “10 minutes” as a recurring to-do in my Outlook since I love crossing off to-do items.) Tomorrow (Friday the 17th) at 1pm EST, I’ll be hosting a live chat about the 10 minute challenge. Come share and garner inspiration for how to make self care doable! The chat is text based (similar to posting and commenting on status updates in Facebook); just be sure to create a login at The Motherhood in advance so you can hop right on at 1pm to chat in real time!

Get Firm this February with Gaiam TV

As a busy single working mama, there is just never enough time in the day! Because of my schedule fitness always comes last, which I’m not proud about. I understand the benefits of exercise, but haven’t yet been able to get my butt into gear and dedicate the time necessary to prioritize my health. Enter Gaiam TV! There are some great gyms near me, but they are very expensive, and if I’m not at work then I’m with my daughter, so impossible to get to the gym! Gaiam TV is the first streaming video subscription offering designed to support people interested in health, wellness, yoga, fitness, and personal development. Awesome! With over 2,000 titles, it really is like Netflix or Redbox for health, yoga, and fitness!  

I had the opportunity to check out all that Gaiam TV has to offer and I was blown away! I recently had to cancel my On Demand so I no longer have access to fitness videos, and I was so excited about all the titles that were on Gaiam TV. I’ve wanted to get into boxing and was psyched to see a boxing tutorial video with Sugar Ray Leonard & Laila Ali! Viewers can sweat it out with top instructors like Jillian Michaels, Mari Winsor, Rodney Yee, and Kathryn Budig to name a few.
After a long day at work, I swear my brain turns into mush, which is no problem with Gaiam because it’s extremely user friendly and simple to use. Viewers can customize workouts for weight loss, total body sculpting or increased energy and narrow down their options based on level, style, instructor, and amount of available time. Only have time for a short video? No problem. Have more time, no problem! With Gaiam TV, viewers can easily search for videos, make playlists, and preview selections. Plus, subscribers to Gaiam TV are offered the chance to rate and review Gaiam TV titles. This really is customized to fit your needs and meets you where you are in your fitness journey.
This isn’t something that you have to use during certain hours of the day; the entire library of award-winning videos is available anytime, anywhere. So whether you’re home, visiting friends or family, or on vacation, at work, you have access and 24/7 convenience for streaming from your computer, iPad, or smartphone.
Even better is Gaiam TV offers a free 10-day trial to prospective subscribers. Gaiam TV’s $9.95/moth subscription fee allows you to stream unlimited content, without restriction. This no strings attached subscription means that there is no commitment and you can cancel at any time. Click here to take advantage of Gaiam TV’s Free 10-day Trial – No Strings Attached!
How do you make time to exercise? Would you consider using Gaiam TV?